No pain, No gain?


What is up dear followers and friends?

Word on the street is ¨No Pain, No Gain.¨ Now, what do you think about that?

Because man, oh man, you are preaching to the choir!

Ok, I will cut the street talk, just bear with me and my witty impressions or another.. it happens and by now, it is as real as we can get it to be. Back to business, I have heard this expression quite a few times already throughout my lifetime. It is a cliché and it is something that escapes my mind…. That is until one of my friends literally stuck a post it onto my actual wall and it was the first thing I saw after a work day. Yes, people still decorate their rooms, like me and my friends always post things on the walls too.

I keep getting side-tracked today, must be the Scorpions music I have going on loudly in the ¨background¨, more like blasting from my speakers…

Back to it, this friend posted it on my Wall to remind me for the millionth time that you have to get hurt in order to win something. Now, that right there might sound like a very idiotic way to learn. But let´s think about it… There is also a song called ¨Bulletproof¨ which a line in that song goes like this:

And life’s too short for me to stop
Oh baby, your time is running out.
I won’t let you turn around
And tell me now I’m much too proud
All you do is fill me up with doubt.
This time baby I’ll be bulletproof

In other words, if we want to learn to love better next time, if we want to come out stronger, if we want to let things go… we have to let things happen to us. In this case, pain.


You see, between this reminder and another classic one…. There was this girl I knew that was a National Gymnastics Champion. Her spirit was strong, she shone like no other, she worked out like no one else in the gym, she always wanted to be in the top three, coming in first, no less. Her ambition and her carefree attitude on what everyone else thought was uncanny. Everyone admired her discipline and effort. She had been training all her life to be the best but in one of her top competitions, she fell off the bars and broke her back. Leaving her dream shattered, in a back brace and with very little hope to return to the sport. This led to her getting involved into real life issues. From training all day every day to school and other people. At first, she felt frustrated and just wanted to be invisible. She hung out with people who got high and drank all day. Even if she didn´t do anything, she was with a crowd that was the opposite of everything she believed in. As soon as one of her new ¨friends¨ needed bail money from her, she broke out into tears and anger. She told them off and she realized that even though she did not have gymnastics anymore, it did not mean that she had to live her life in fear nor in pain. She was born a winner, of any kind.. especially the kind she put her mind to.

Where is she now? Her back brace is gone, she was able to get back to gymnastics yet she also went down the NGO and social worker path. She helps people around the world to live their dreams by volunteering in third world countries and getting people on the right track. She is a born winner. I had the pleasure of knowing her and her story. She helps us realize that even though that fall was pain, if it wasn´t for that, she would have not gained her love for helping others as she does today. She was very focused on her career and thought there was nothing else left, when in reality, there was everything else.

What I am saying here is that we need a few thunderstorms before we hit the sunny days. We are our attitude. I needed to fall out of love to fall in love with myself and with that, find myself and center my life so I can continue doing what I love to do.

Find your passion. Yes, as you find it, it might get you down and toss you to the ground… keep pushing yourself up because you will find where you shine. After all, it depends on you and that is your own and only call.

Let me know what is your gain out of your pain!

Have a great one,

The Always Believer



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